Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Japanese Gardens

One of the stops on the double decker bus was Golden Gate Park. The park was huge, 3 miles long and 1.5 miles wide. Of course, Jerry, Gracie, and I easily jogged the thing twice, NOT!! One thing we did do was visit the beautiful Japanese tea garden. While in that garden though, I did have a not so pleasant experience. This experience pertained to me being caucasian and Gracie being Chinese. It came from a very unexpected source, a couple of young girls which shocked me even more. While I was walking with Gracie, we happened upon two girls about the age of 8 or 9. They were very close and talking not so quietly and I heard one of the girls say to the other, "I want to ask her, meaning me, if that's her real daughter". The other one then says, "I don't know, but that's weird to have a Chinese girl for a daughter". So there you have it, it's weird having a a Chinese daughter, let alone one that is real.

I really wanted to walk up to the girls and not so nicely explain that families are made different ways and I further wanted to yell at the lady who was with them but I didn't. I composed myself and gave them the dirtiest look that I could and quietly walked away. Did I do the right thing by not saying anything? I don't know. I didn't want to make a scene, especially in front of Gracie and I felt like that was what I was about to do. One thing I do know is that maybe someday, hopefully, the anger will fade as well as the comments but it just makes me sad that Gracie will have to face these things in her life and I hope that she too will be able to raise her head high, educate, and walk away.

Cool cable car


In front of the gates to Chinatown


Told you Gracie just loved that bus


Gracie and Jerry on top of a very neat arch in the Japanese Gardens


A beautiful picture that Jerry took


1 comment:

William and Bobbie said...

its the moments that you can either remain calm or start to yell..you want to yell..you want to really really yell..ive been there..i think everyone has..we know that the way we react is the way leah will learn to react..its hard but like you said..thinking of our girls facing this is even harder..no matter how many times it happens im shocked everytime.

They have no idea about the precious, beautiful little girl they were talking about..and that is their loss.

Glad you still had a great time..the pictures are beautiful!